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Friday 18 December 2015

10 Body Language Mistakes To Avoid in an Interview

Body language can betray you in a job interview if you’re not aware of how your body acts or reacts without your consent. From eye contact to arm touching, here are a list of 10 body language mistakes to avoid in your next job interview:
1.  Bad Posture
Leaning back is lazy or arrogant, leaning forward is aggressive and slouching is just lazy. Instead, sit tall and straighten your back as much as possible.

2. Crossed Arms
According to psychology crossing arms often signals defensiveness and resistance. Open your arms at your sides to appear approachable and receiving. This will put your interviewer at ease and make them feel comfortable communicating with you.

3. Hands Behind Back
Clasping hands behind the back may signal resistance and could mean to the other person that you’re hiding something. It’s important that you appear open and approachable so don’t try to control your body gestures by keeping your hands still behind your back.

4. Pointing
Pointing and excessive hands movement results in invading the other person’s space aggressively. You certainly don’t want that to happen in an interview.

5. Breaking Eye Contact
Don't stare, but try to hold your interviewers gaze for one extra second before breaking away. Do this especially at the beginning when you introduce yourself and shake hands with the interviewer.

6. Excessive Nodding
Many people nod a lot during interviews out of anxiety and their desire to appear agreeable and friendly. Nod once or twice with a smile of agreement but don’t over do it or you will appear nervous, silly or trying too hard.

7. Fidgeting
Stop fidgeting. It distracts your interviewer and you definitely want them to focus on what you have to say not on your moving hands or the sound of coins jingling in your pocket.

8. Unwanted facial expressions
It is crucial for your facial expressions to match your tone. If you want to express your enthusiasm for working at the company but your facial expressions convey that the mere idea of that is torturing you, forget about being hired.

9. Shifty Eyes
Distracted or upward eye movements can suggest someone is lying or not sure of themselves. It's important to look someone directly in the eye to convey confidence and certainty.

10. Staring
While it's important to be confident and look the interviewer in the eye, you have to break away. Locking eyes with someone for an extended period of time can be interpreted as aggressive, not to mention creepy.

Courtesy: Arab News
http://careers.arabnews.com/en/page/?aid=311

Wednesday 1 January 2014

Happy New Year 2014



My best wishes for all the friends and family in the Year 2014. May our all dreams come true and May it be a new beginning in our lives by  bringing all the happiness, joys and tranquillity.

Let's start this new year with new zeal, enthusiasm and drive to reach our goals and destiny. Let's be optimistic and work hard for the success.

Keep rocking in 2014 my dear friends and family!!!  

Monday 28 October 2013

To be 28 on 28th.....

Yet another 28th October came, It's my birthday again :)... But this time there is something special in it, Yes I'm exactly 28 years old on this 28th October, 2013...



The whole 28 years flashes back and it seems to be a blink of the eyes. I have been through rough and tough patches in my life and also saw some tremendous and happy moments. The most exciting time was last year June-July, when I went on a religious journey (Umrah) with my family to Saudi Arabia, the memories that will remain forever.

I have been through many good and bad experiences and no doubt this makes one wise and helps to understand the World around you more deeply. I found many good friends and lost a few. Some are thousands miles away but still very near and dear, some others are on a walk-able distance but far to reach and meet. But I think that's how life works.

All though there are many people around in times of happiness but I found few people staying and standing with me in difficult times, sharing and caring. I saw many admirers and even more haters. Thanks to all of them who did tell me Who am I and What should I be....

The days 10,220 days which I spent in this World are filled with blessings from ALLAH the ALMIGHTY, I thank ALLAH the ALMIGHTY for everything in my life.

I also thank all the friends and family member, connected with me some way or other for being such nice colors in the rainbow of my life....


Oh, I forgot to write, Special thanks to all the friends and family members, who spear their precious time to wish me on my special day. You all made my day even more special. *_*

Friday 16 August 2013

Emotional Intelligence pivoting Team and Group effectiveness

I always wonder why people with same Intellectual intelligence (IQ) and skills differ in what they achieve in their careers. This question knocks the door of curiosity that there must be something else which might be invisible but inevitable.

From the day One, we are told and taught not to trust our emotions, as they distort the frequency of accurate information. Even the word “emotional” covey meanings like weak, childish and or something irrational. The sentences like “Don’t be emotional as emotions are stupid!” convey our perception about the emotion. 

On the other hand, we have ability to calculate, memorize and solve problems. These are things which can easily be measured through written tests and come out as our grades to determine where are we getting admissions and the career path we are going to pursue. But the problem with IQ is that it doesn’t determine how successful we are going to be in our career than Emotional Intelligence (EQ) does. The existence of EQ can not be denied only because it can not be measured or seen.

EQ actually increases our Self-Awareness and Social Awareness, helping us to better understand and anticipate not only ours but also others’ emotions. When we are self and socially-aware, it is easy to better manage and direct our communication and behaviors in a way to maximize our short or long term goals and purposes we desire to achieve.

People with academic brilliance but social incompetence don’t guarantee their success as the skills of Emotional intelligence are missing. Intellectual intelligence is the easily quantifiable part of personality where as EQ is something deep to find out and explore. Strong Intellect (IQ) and experience can take someone to professional positions but it’s really the EQ which differentiates the people who excel from the ones who under-achieve.

Adopting EQ competencies can not only let us achieve our own goals but also helps in meeting team requirements causing organizational success. We have many people in the World who succeeded outstandingly by adopting EQ skills. Let’s share few examples of those who became benchmarks for people to follow:

·         Bill Gates, Owner and CEO of Microsoft inc. dropped of the college reluctantly. He says, “Unlike some students, I loved college. However, I felt the window of opportunity to start a software company might not open again”. He actually adopted EQ competency “Initiation”.
·         Colin Powel, 65th US Secretary of State was the youngest general ever to become Chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff. Due to his EQ skill of “Organizational awareness”, he is considered as Legendary for the political skills very well demonstrated by him during his career.
·         Jack Welch, CEO of General Electric Co. had EQ skill of “Developing others”, spent 50% of time on developing people. At the company, he was able to know 1000 names of the employees and their roles.
·         J.K. Rowling, author of renowned Harry Potter was divorced and was compelled to live on public assistance along with her daughter in a small apartment in Edinburgh. Almost 10 publishers rejected her first book in this series. Due to her EQ skill of “Optimism”, she was able to take it to the heights of success.



“There can be no knowledge without emotion. We may be aware of a truth, yet until we have felt its force, it is not ours. To the cognition of the brain must be added the experience of the soul”.
Arnold Bennett, novelist, 1867–1931







Consider an organization is working in extremely complex situation while another is facing difficult and disgruntled customers. What sort of employees should they employ? The answer would be “those” higher on EQ. Today, organizations are looking for employees having EQ skills than “visible skills”, as effectiveness of the teams and organizations is proven to be closely related with emotional intelligence.

In 1999, Druskat & Wolff conducted research and identified the existence of emotionally competent group norms (ECGNs). They termed these norms as “they influence and manage the emotional process in a way that builds emotional capacity and develops social capital and leads to effectiveness” (p. 9). Further research was conducted on these norms by Goleman, Boyatzis & McKee in 2002 and concluded that “These group norms are an indication of the group’s EQ and can help to determine if a group of individuals functions as a high-performing team” (Goleman, Boyatzis & McKee, 2002).

Some other valid researches also point out the correlation between team effectiveness and productivity and emotional intelligence (Ilarda & Findlay, 2006; Prati et al., 2003) and find commonality between successful teamwork and emotional intelligence (Yost & Tucker, 2000). Many surveys too, validate the important role of EQ competencies in effective teams and individual. 181 different positions from 121 organizations were surveyed, and 67% of the abilities deemed essential for effective performance were emotional competencies” (cf. Rosier, 1994). Similarly, in order to differentiate star performers in teams from average ones, date from 40 different corporations were reanalyzed and interestingly emotional competencies were found twice important in contribution toward excellence than those of pure intellect or expertise (cf. Jacobs and Chen, 1997)

Looking at the significance and pivotal role of EI in success of individuals and organizations, higher management must inculcate these competencies in individuals of the organization to be successful. But the question is: can Emotional intelligence be learned? My answer would be yes! Although these abilities are said to be God gifted but they can surely be inculcated through adopting good practices within organizations. By developing the following five abilities, Emotional Intelligence level of the employees can be increased:

v  Skill 1: The ability to recognize and manage our own emotions.
v  Skill 2: The ability to bond with others via nonverbal communication.
v  Skill 3: The ability to have fun and play in dealing with challenges.
v  Skill 4: The ability to reduce stress quickly.
v  Skill 5: The ability to resolve conflicts positively and confidently.

Moreover, the existing competencies are needed to be fine tuned so that the desired goal of effectiveness and efficiency in individuals, teams and organizations at large can be achieved. Supporting the importance of EQ doesn’t mean that IQ is under-estimated. Intellectual abilities (IQ) set the threshold for entering into any career, but as the threshold is met it is Emotional abilities (EQ) which determine eventual success and excellence in one’s career.



Reference:

  • Goleman, D. (1998). Working with emotional intelligence. New York: Bantam Books.
  • Goleman, D., Boyatzis R. & McKee, A. (2002) Primary Leadership: Realizing the Power of Emotional Intelligence. Boston: HBS Press.
  • Druskat, V. & Wolff, S (2001). “Building the emotional intelligence of groups”, Harvard Business Review, vol. March, pp: 80-90.
  • Dattner, B,(n.d.) ‘Succeeding with Emotional Intelligence’ Dattner Consulting, LLC, retrieved from http://www.dattnerconsulting.com/presentations/ei.pdf
  • Jaramillo Arturo L. (2007)The Practical Application of Emotional Intelligence: Building Leadership Skills, Developing More Effective Relationships and Earning Trust and Respect Through EQ!”, retrieved from http://www.generalservices.state.nm.us/pdf/EQPracticalApplication11-07-07.pdf

Wednesday 30 May 2012

Keep the hopes high...

It was a time when i was looking for admission in my Bachelors and I was waiting in a waiting room of the University for the entry test. The view through the window of waiting room was amazing. The lush green mountains and amazing scenery was fascinating me. I was thinking, how nice would it be to study here, sitting in front of this window and enjoy the nature. I did well in the test and was offered the admission too, but I couldn't get there due to some personal reasons. Then I went on studying at another University in another city. But the wish I made was there alive in my mind. I did graduation and started my first job in a social sector organization.

I came across an Ad. for a post of Instructor in a University. As per the job Ad., the job was based in a city far away and totally different than the city i “wished” to study in.  I applied for it, got the call and eventually was offered a place. I received a phone call from University confirming the job place I would like to choose from. And to my surprise, they offered me a place in the dream city, a few minutes walk from the University where i made the wish….

I'm sitting in front of a window with all those memories clicking back and reminding me the wish i made. But not as a Student but as a Teacher….Yes! It just happened…

Sometimes we become impatient with what we wish to achieve. But fact is things come at right time. We just need to keep the hopes and faith that whatever happens is for our betterment from “The Creator”. We need to Dream, make the wishes and hope for the best…..

Saturday 31 December 2011

Happy New Year!!!

There are few hours left in Sun rise of a brand new year. May be it would have already started in many countries, yet many are waiting for the "Dawn". Seems to be it was yesterday when the year 2011 started and we were celebrating it.....
Lets analyze what we achieved in the Year 2011 and what we lacked in it.What were we planning and what we did in it? What we give to our Country instead what our Country gave us? How and What we contributed to our mutual World we are living in? What we did to make this World a peaceful place for all? Did we work to eradicate poverty and starvation? Did we felt the pain of the people suffering all over the World? And the list goes on and on.........
If the answers we have for these questions are positive , then certainly we are entering in "A New Year 2012". If the answers are negative, we still have to work hard to make it "A New Year". Never the less, we can pledge in the end of this 2011 to have positive answers for all these questions in the Year 2012 and begin a new chapter in our lives to have real celebrations......... Lets start this new year with new thinking, new enthusiasm, new zeal and new frame of mind.....!!!
Lets pray that the Coming Year 2012 bring happiness, peace, unity, success, prosperity and tranquility in the World, and Smile on the faces of depressed and suppressed. May this last day of 2011 be the last day of the Sufferings and miseries of the people of the World. May this last day of 2011 be the last day for unrest and problems in Pakistan and all over the World. May the Year 2012 be a new beginning for Pakistan and the World. AMEEN!!!

Sunday 11 December 2011

Dedicated to my Teachers!




This Video is dedication to ALL of my sweet, loving and caring teachers. Including my first teacher Mrs. Dr. Campher in The Queen's Villa School, Sir Irfan Ullah Khan Mohmand, Sir Abdullah, Sir Imtiaz Khan, Sir Niamat Ullah, Sir Fazl Munir and lot more.....

Thanks for your utmost dedication and hardwork.....